The Outie Sanctuary

The Group Coaching Program for Labia Love, Acceptance & Sexual Confidence

Overcome labia insecurities, fall in love with your vulva, and unlock the sexual confidence you’ve always wanted - all without a labiaplasty.

Facilitated by Outie-Owner Gem aka The Blood Slut

Labia & Body Acceptance Coach & Sex Educator

Menstrual Cycle Educator

Dietitian & Nutritionist

Qualifications

Graduate Diploma in Sexology

Bachelor of Nutrition & Dietetics

(with psychology electives)

😎 Step into a bad ass, supportive, queer-inclusive community where your body, pleasure, and confidence get the VIP treatment they deserve.

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✅ Exclusive early access to enrolment to secure your spot (limited spots available to keep the group intimate).

✅ Get access to EXCLUSIVE discounts

You’ll receive an email once the enrolment open date has been decided.

If you’re in urgent need of support or you’d like to work with me 1:1, click here.

✅ LGBTQIA+ inclusive and informed care

✅ Trauma-informed care

✅ Menstrual cycle informed care (because your cycle affects every aspect of your life, including your relationship with your vulva)

“Is there something wrong with me? Why is there skin hanging from my vagina?!”

If you’ve had this thought before, don’t worry, you’re not alone doll!. School sex ed failed us by not teaching us about vulva diversity i.e. that vulvas and labia can look all sorts of ways and still be healthy!

Side note: what you probably call your vagina is actually your vulva. You’ll learn more about your anatomy inside the program 🦋

My Story

I used to only have sex in dim lighting, tuck my flaps in when I was naked around friends and hold my flaps apart in doggy so they didn’t hang down.

These unhealthy coping mechanisms were so distracting from the actual sex, that I was rarely present or actually enjoying myself.

I was so preoccupied by my insecurity, that I would experience frequent urges to cut my labia off with scissors.

I was relentlessly bullied by ex boyfriends and close girlfriends for having an outie.

A labiaplasty seemed like the only way this ‘problem’ could be fixed. 

Many years later I learnt about vulva diversity through my Sexology studies, this helped me realise that I didn’t need an expensive surgery to love my labia, I just needed to establish new, healthy belief systems about my body. I teach you exactly how to do this inside the program.

Now, my relationship with my vulva is so strong, that negative vulva-thoughts no longer affect the quality of my sex life or my self-confidence.

It took me a several years to get to a place of acceptance, followed by deep unwavering love for my vulva. In joining the Outie Sanctuary, you’ll fast-track your healing and get to where you want to be much faster because you’ll have specialised support and guidance.

Inside the Outie Sanctuary, I’ll Teach You How To:

✅ Build your self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence 😎

Develop coping skills for moments when an unhelpful vulva thought pops up 🧠

Feel more accepting of your vulva ❤️‍🩹

Have a secure relationship with yourself and your body 💃🏽

Experience less rumination and more helpful thoughts about your vulva 💭

Have more enjoyable sex 🛌

Feel comfortable and sexy naked 🤸🏻

Have strong discernment in relationships e.g. be able to spot red flags with new sexual partners 🧐

No longer give a f*** about appeasing the male gaze to live your life free from pleasing men 🚫

Communicate assertively so you can firmly stand up for yourself 💪🏼

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Client Testimonial

“I absolutely loved the Outie Sanctuary. There are so many things that really helped me, you have so many tools at your disposal - that was my favourite part. Every part of the healing journey is considered. I do think that the inner child healing was the most impactful for me and my journey.

Gem is everything that I could have asked for in a coach and more, being so knowledgeable and flexible is truly a gift. Every session ends up being so tailored to your needs and any road bump that I came across was understood, and Gem always provided multiple solutions to try.

When I first started the Sanctuary, I hated my body - my vulva specifically - and in turn, that affected my entire self-worth. Since my time in the Sanctuary I can say that I’ve come to a point of acceptance and understanding with my vulva. I'm still working on loving it, but I’ve come so far since I first started.

Going through this program has shown me how interconnected everything is to the shame that has been drilled into me by society, as well as the potential for me to take my power back.

I highly recommend this program to anyone dealing with any vulva shame and insecurity. This is a safe space for you to explore your insecurities, limiting beliefs and to learn healthy methods to begin to overcome and become the best version of yourself. Gem’s helped me change my life for the better and I can’t thank them enough!

I also recommend the Outie Sanctuary to anyone who has a vulva. There’s always room for more self-love and acceptance of your body. Society has led us to believe that some vulvas have a “better” appearance than others.

When you're doing this type of healing, you often find a lot of other parts of yourself that need healing. There is absolutely nothing other than benefits from taking this journey.”

- Jade, 2025 Outie Sanctuary Graduate

What makes the Outie Sanctuary extra special?

Your coach (aka me) is a queer, genderfluid slut! I studied gender diversity and queerness in my Sexology degree so I’m thoroughly educated in this space and provide LGBTQIA+ inclusive and informed care to my clients.

✅ I’m neurodivergent (AuDHD) and trauma-informed which adds yet another layer of depth to my work and the care you receive inside the program.

✅ I teach from a place of personal lived experience so I can personally relate to your experiences, making you feel seen and validated on a whole other level.

✅ It’s sprinkled with light-hearted playfulness. We dance, celebrate wins, laugh and be our silly-billy selves. In order to get through the mud, we’ve gotta mix it up with some goofiness!

✅ I’m also a qualified Dietitian, Nutritionist & Menstrual Cycle Educator — so I’m also very knowledgable in this area and bring this expertise into the Outie Sanctuary which adds depth to the holistic nature of the program.

Book Your Discovery Call

A 30min complimentary meet and greet with Gem on Zoom.

If you don’t see a time that works for you, email gem@iamawildgem.com and I’ll open up a slot that works for you.

The Outie Sanctuary: Investment Tiers

🦋 Acceptance Seeker (Standard Tier)

Self-love. Healing. Compassion.

Duration: 6-months

Investment: $249 AUD / ~$131 USD / ~£115 GBP / ~€123 EUR per month (6-month plan)

Currency conversions are approximate and may vary with exchange rates.

💗 For the one who’s ready to finally make peace with their vulva and feel at home in their body:

✅ 2x Live group coaching sessions* on Zoom every month for 6-months (12x sessions total)

Access to a library of supportive resources including workbooks and guided tracks designed to reprogram your subconscious mind.

✅ Connection to a supportive community of folks going through the same healing journey

BONUS: Blood Magik online course for free - read about it below.

*The first session each month is a group sharing and Q&A format - everyone will be encouraged to share their experiences and progress with the group and I offer advice and guidance.

Group discussions will be encouraged to help everyone feel connected and validated in their experience and create a sense of community.

In the second session each month, I will guide you through healing practices and exercises that will help you re-wire your brain, soothe your inner child, reparent yourself, regulate your nervous system and improve your relationship with yourself.

🦋 Acceptance Seeker Extended Access

Self-love. Healing. Compassion — with extra time to integrate.

Duration: 10-months

Investment: $199 AUD / ~$132 USD / ~£116 GBP / ~€124 EUR per month for (10-month plan)

Currency conversions are approximate and may vary with exchange rates.

Here’s what you get doll:

✅ Everything in the Acceptance Seeker (see above)

+

✅ 4x Bonus months of access to Outie Sanctuary content = more time to integrate teachings.

🌹 Labia-Lover (Premium Tier)

Embodiment. Liberation. Labia confidence.

Duration: 6-months

Investment: $389 AUD / ~$260 USD / ~£224 GBP / ~€243 EUR per month (6-month plan)

Currency conversions are approximate and may vary with exchange rates.

❤️ For the one who wants deeper, more personalised support, and a lil extra accountability to stay consistent:

✅ Everything in the Acceptance Seeker (see above)

+

✅ 6 months of private 1:1 coaching with me — one juicy 60min session every month i.e. extra integration support

🌹 Labia-Lover Extended Access

Mind-blowing pleasure. Unshakable sexual confidence. Self-assuredness.

Duration: 10-months

Investment: $339 AUD / ~$225 USD / ~£194 GBP / ~€212 EUR per month

Currency conversions are approximate and may vary with exchange rates.

💖 For the one who wants to fall deeply in love with their vulva, fully integrate the teachings, and embody unstoppable vulva confidence — plus enjoy a pleasure-filled, orgasmic sex life without holding back:

✅ Everything in the Acceptance Seeker Extended Access (see above)

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✅ 10 months of private 1:1 coaching with me — one juicy 60min session every month

❤️‍🔥 Pussy Power (Platinum)

Deep transformation. Private mentorship. Full inner-self glow-up. Complete self-mastery.

Duration: 6-months

Investment: $759 AUD / ~$505 USD / ~£435 GBP / ~€470 EUR per month (6-month premium plan)

Currency conversions are approximate and may vary with exchange rates.

🔥 This is the ultimate VIP treatment doll:

✅ Includes full access to The Outie Sanctuary group coaching program (everything listed under Acceptance Seeker tier).

12x private 90-min sessions — one juicy deep dive every fortnight

✅ 4x personalised subconscious reprogramming or guided meditation tracks made just for you.

From hiding your labia, to owning your power.

FAQ’S

Blood Magik Online Course Curriculum

Mercury Cohort Graduates

If you have already completed the Outie Sanctuary and would like further access, you can re-join. Please only re-join the cohort that you previously joined eg if you were in the Mercury cohort, make sure you re-join the Mercury cohort.