The Outie Sanctuary

The online program for folks who are insecure about their vulva/labia and desire building a loving relationship with their pussy!

Facilitated by outie-owner and Sex Coach, Gem Campbell — pictured.

Enrolment is Open!

Group coaching calls will begin in early 2025, but I’m allowing people to join early to get stuck into the self-paced content.

Book Your Discovery Call

- a free 30min Zoom call with Gem to have a vibe check and get more info on the program.

“Is there something wrong with me? Why is there skin hanging from my labia?!”

If you’ve had this thought before, don’t worry, you’re not alone. School sex ed failed us by not teaching us about Vulva Diversity i.e. that vulvas and labias can look all sorts of ways and still be healthy!

My Story

I used to only have sex in dim lighting, tuck my flaps in when I was naked around friends and hold my flaps apart in doggy so they didn’t hang down.

These unhealthy coping mechanisms were so distracting from the actual sex, that I was rarely present or actually enjoying myself.

I was so preoccupied by my insecurity that I would experience frequent urges to grab a pair of scissors and chop my labia minora off. 

I was relentlessly bullied by ex boyfriends and close girlfriends for having an outie.

A labiaplasty seemed like the only way this ‘problem’ could be fixed. 

Many years later I learnt about vulva diversity through my Sexology studies, this helped me realise that I didn’t need surgery to love my labia, I just needed to establish new, healthy belief systems about my body (I teach you how to do this in the membership).

Now, my relationship with my vulva is so strong that negative vulva-thoughts no longer affect the quality of my sex life or my self-confidence.

It took me YEARS to overcome vulva insecurity because I did it without help, but you’re going to get a solid start in only a matter of MONTHS.

The Outie Sanctuary will support you to:

✅ Build your self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence 😎

✅ Develop coping skills for moments when an unhelpful vulva thought pops up 🧠

✅ Feel more accepting of your vulva ❤️‍🩹

✅ Have a secure relationship with yourself and your body 💃🏽

✅ Experience less rumination and more helpful thoughts about your vulva 💭

✅ Have more enjoyable sex 🛌

✅ Feel comfortable and sexy naked 🤸🏻

✅ Have strong discernment in relationships e.g. be able to spot red flags with new sexual partners 🧐

✅ No longer give a f*** about appeasing the male gaze to live your life free from pleasing men 🚫

✅ Communicate assertively so you can firmly stand up for yourself 💪🏼

Gem Campbell feeling proud to have overcome labia minora insecurity and to be confident with their vulva and during sex.

About the Sanctuary:

Enrolment will only remain open until all spots are filled. Limited spots are available to keep the group intimate.

  • A 6-month online group coaching program facilitated by Sexologist, Gem Campbell.

  • It is optional to book a discovery call prior to joining, however those who have not had discovery calls will be required to have a 30min private call with me prior to group coaching commencing to touch base.

  • FAQ’s at the bottom of this page.

What You Get Inside the Sanctuary:

✅ 2x live group coaching calls each month:

  • One call will be a group sharing and Q&A format - everyone will be encouraged to share their experiences and progress with the group and Gem offers advice and guidance.

  • In the other call Gem will guide you through supportive and healing practices and exercises.

✅ Access to a library of supportive resources including workbooks and guided tracks designed to reprogram your subconscious mind.

✅ BONUS: Blood Magik online course for free - read about it below.

Payment Info:

Payment is in monthly instalments:

  • 6-month program = 6x monthly payments of $199 AUD (Australian currency) (= ~$131 USD)

  • 10-month program (see info below for this option*) = 10x monthly payments of $159.40 AUD (= ~ $105 USD)

Scholarships are available for folks experiencing financial hardship. If you wish to claim a scholarship, please send an email to gem@iamawildgem.com ASAP to request one. Please DO NOT claim one of these positions if you can afford the full price and are financially stable.

*NEW: 10-Month Program Option!

You can now get access to the Outie Sanctuary content for an EXTRA 4 months after we finish up the group coaching calls.

This means there are now two options to choose from:

6-months or 10-months

Please note: group coaching calls will cease at the 6-month mark but you will still have access to all of the recordings and library of resources (including the Blood Magik online course). This is a great option for busy people who would like extra time to get through the content in the resource library or who feel their insecurity is severe and may need access to the resources for longer.

If you’re unsure which option to choose book a discovery call (please keep in mind enrolment closes on the 26th Nov AEDT.

Learn to Love Your Labia Without a Labiaplasty.

Join the Outie Sanctuary Program

By joining, you are agreeing to the Outie Sanctuary Program Agreement. Click here to read.

The program is for adults and people with vulvas only. All genders are welcome.

Book Your Discovery Call

- a free 30min Zoom call with Gem to have a vibe check and get more info on the program.

FAQ’S

    • I use gender inclusive language and include all genders in my vulva healing work, meaning this is an LGBTQIA+ safe space. Many sex educators and coaches are not educated in this space or they’re TERFs (trans exclusionary radical feminists) or just straight up transphobes.

    • I’m neurodivergent and trauma informed which adds yet another layer of depth to my work.

    • I teach from a place of personal lived experience which I believe is very valuable for you!

    • All of my programs are sprinkled with light-hearted fun!! We will dance, party, laugh and be our silly-billy selves! In order to get through the mud, we’ve gotta mix it up with some goofy not-so-seriousness. goes here

  • 6 months, the intention behind this timeframe is to give you adequate time to re-wire and reprogram your brains belief systems.

    Inside the program you’ll have me to hold you accountable so you stay consistent.

    Sustainable healing requires consistent commitment and dedication.

    You can not choose a 10-month option (see info above).

  • The program runs in cohorts, so no you cannot join anytime. I recommend subscribing to my email list to stay in the loop so you don’t miss out when enrolment opens.

    Click here to join my email list.

  • Unfortunately not, the program is for adults only.

    I recommend subscribing to my email list in the mean time so you can stay in touch until you are old enough to join. Click here to join.

    • Healing vulva shame

    • Cultivating self-confidence

    • Manifestation & menstruation ritual

    • Embracing your inner slut and seductress

    • Healing period shame (goes hand in hand with healing outie and vulva shame). If you can't love your pussy when it's bleeding, how can you ever fully, wholeheartedly love it?

      Scroll down to read more about Blood Magik.

  • They will all be recorded and added to the library for you to watch anytime.

    I always make sure that as many people as possible can attend the lives.

  • ✅Turn up to as many live calls as you can + do the homework I get your during the calls (calls are 1-1.5hrs long)

    ✅Complete all of the workbooks and relevant Blood Magik content (aim for 1 hr/wk)

    ✅Listen to each guided reprogramming track every day for at least 1 month to help rewire your brain.

  • Any adult with vulva insecurity who is ready to deeply commit to overcoming their insecurity and healing. All genders are welcome.

  • Absolutely! I'm genderfluid myself. If you are transphobic or a TERF (meaning you do not accept trans/gender diverse people or believe only cis women have vulvas) please do not join this program.

    If you are confused or uneducated on this topic, please do not hesitate to reach out to me, I am more than happy to edcuate you.

Blood Magik Online Course Curriculum

Module 1: Intro

  • Welcome video: details, how to best approach the course, guided embodiment practice, tarot & oracle card readings.

  • Workbook: Blood hygiene, period sustainability + taboo talk

  • Audio: Dance as a healing modality and dance activity

  • Audio: Self-soothing tools

Module 2: Period Culture

  • Workbook: witch wounds, cultural influence on period beliefs (includes activity)

  • Connecting with ancestors guided meditation

Module 3: Overcoming Menstrual Shame

  • Workbook: How to release & re-frame negative period beliefs and stories (journal prompts and activities)

  • Cord-cutting and EFT tapping guided practices

  • Audio: Opening, activating and healing the throat to heal patriarchal wounds

  • Video: Relaxing guided embodiment and self-soothing practice

Module 4: Blood Ritual & Manifestation

  • Workbook: How to harness your bleed (period) to listen to your spiritual wisdom and manifest the life you desire

  • Activity: How to connect with your blood

  • Videos and audio: How to use menstrual blood for manifestation, creativity and self-expression

  • Audio: Guided manifestation meditation

  • Audio: The Moon Cycle - learn how to harness the power of the moon and how it compliments your blood ritual & manifestation practices

  • Video: Guided dance practice

Module 5: Blood Slut

  • Video: Activating, connecting with & expressing your inner slut, seductress and your sexuality as well as healing slut shame

  • Video: Self-seduction, self-pleasure & masturbation while bleeding, healing your relationship with and connecting with your vulva & vagina healing

  • Audio: What it means to be a slut and how to heal slut shame

  • Closing Video: Breathwork and reflective journaling

Nervous system regulation tools are scattered throughout the modules. In order to have a more pleasurable life and heal, we need to have the skills to regulate and be in a parasympathetic dominant state as much as possible.