The Outie Sanctuary

The Group Coaching Program for Labia Love & Acceptance

Overcome labia insecurities, fall in love with your vulva, and unlock the sexual confidence you’ve always wanted — all without a labiaplasty.

Facilitated by Outie-Owner Gem aka The Blood Slut

Labia Acceptance Coach & Sexual Healer

Menstrual Cycle Educator

Dietitian & Nutritionist

Qualifications

Graduate Diploma in Sexology

Bachelor of Nutrition & Dietetics

(with psychology electives)

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😎 Step into a bad ass, supportive, queer-inclusive community where your body, pleasure, and confidence get the VIP treatment they deserve.

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✅ Exclusive early access to enrolment to secure your spot (limited spots available to keep the group intimate).

✅ Get access to EXCLUSIVE discounts

You’ll receive an email once the enrolment open date has been decided.

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If you’re in urgent need of support or you’d like to work with me 1:1, click here.

✅ LGBTQIA+ inclusive and informed care

✅ Trauma-informed care

✅ Menstrual cycle informed care (because your cycle affects every aspect of your life, including your relationship with your vulva)

“Is there something wrong with me? Why is there skin hanging from my vagina?!”

If you’ve had this thought before, don’t worry, you’re not alone doll!. School sex ed failed us by not teaching us about vulva diversity i.e. that vulvas and labia can look all sorts of ways and still be healthy!

Side note: what you probably call your vagina is actually your vulva. You’ll learn more about your anatomy inside the program 🦋

My Story

I used to only have sex in dim lighting, tuck my flaps in when I was naked around friends and hold my flaps apart in doggy so they didn’t hang down.

These unhealthy coping mechanisms were so distracting from the actual sex, that I was rarely present or actually enjoying myself.

I was so preoccupied by my insecurity that I would experience frequent urges to grab a pair of scissors and chop my labia minora off. 

I was relentlessly bullied by ex boyfriends and close girlfriends for having an outie.

A labiaplasty seemed like the only way this ‘problem’ could be fixed. 

Many years later I learnt about vulva diversity through my Sexology studies, this helped me realise that I didn’t need an expensive surgery to love my labia, I just needed to establish new, healthy belief systems about my body. I teach you exactly how to do this inside the program.

Now, my relationship with my vulva is so strong, that negative vulva-thoughts no longer affect the quality of my sex life or my self-confidence.

It took me a several years to get to a place of acceptance, followed by deep unwavering love for my vulva. In joining the Outie Sanctuary, you’ll fast-track your healing and get to where you want to be much faster than I did because you’ll have the support and guidance that I didn’t.

Inside the Outie Sanctuary I’ll Teach You How To:

✅ Build your self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence 😎

Develop coping skills for moments when an unhelpful vulva thought pops up 🧠

Feel more accepting of your vulva ❤️‍🩹

Have a secure relationship with yourself and your body 💃🏽

Experience less rumination and more helpful thoughts about your vulva 💭

Have more enjoyable sex 🛌

Feel comfortable and sexy naked 🤸🏻

Have strong discernment in relationships e.g. be able to spot red flags with new sexual partners 🧐

No longer give a f*** about appeasing the male gaze to live your life free from pleasing men 🚫

Communicate assertively so you can firmly stand up for yourself 💪🏼

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Client Testimonial

“I absolutely loved the Outie Sanctuary. There are so many things that really helped me, it's hard to know where to begin. My favorite part of the sanctuary is that there are SO many tools that you have at your disposal. Every part of the healing journey is considered. I do think that the inner child healing was the most impactful for me and my journey. Gem is everything that I could have asked for in a coach and more. Being so knowledgeable and so flexible is truly a gift. Every call ends up so tailored to the needs of that session and any road bump that I came across was understood and provided with multiple solutions to try. 

When I first started the Sanctuary, I hated my body. My vulva specifically, but in turn that affected my entire self-worth. Since my time in the Sanctuary I can say that I have come to a point of acceptance and understanding with my vulva. I'm still working on loving it ,but I’ve really come so far since I first started. 

I recommend the Outie Sanctuary to anyone who has a vulva. There’s always room for more self-love and acceptance of your body because society has lead vulva owners to believe that some vulvas have a “better appearance than others.” When you're doing this type of healing, you often find a lot of other parts of yourself that need healing. There are absolutely nothing other than benefits from taking this journey.”

- Jade, 2025 Outie Sanctuary Graduate

What makes the Outie Sanctuary extra special?

✅ Your coach (aka me) is a queer, genderfluid slut! I studied gender diversity and queerness in my Sexology degree so I’m thoroughly educated in this space and provide LGBTQIA+ inclusive and informed care to my clients.

✅ I’m neurodivergent (AuDHD) and trauma-informed which adds yet another layer of depth to my work and the care you receive inside the program.

✅ I teach from a place of personal lived experience so I can personally relate to your experiences, making you feel seen and validated on a whole other level.

✅ It’s sprinkled with light-hearted playfulness. We dance, celebrate wins, laugh and be our silly-billy selves. In order to get through the mud, we’ve gotta mix it up with some goofiness!

✅ I’m also a qualified Dietitian, Nutritionist & Menstrual Cycle Educator — so I’m also very knowledgable in this area and bring this expertise into the Outie Sanctuary which adds depth to the holistic nature of the program.

Book Your Discovery Call

A 30min complimentary meet and greet with Gem on Zoom.

If you don’t see a time that works for you, email gem@iamawildgem.com and I’ll open up a slot that works for you.

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The Outie Sanctuary: Investment Tiers

🦋 Acceptance Seeker (Standard Tier)

Self-love. Healing. Compassion.

Duration: 6-months

Investment: $249 AUD / ~$131 USD / ~£115 GBP / ~€123 EUR per month (6-month plan)

Currency conversions are approximate and may vary with exchange rates.

💗 For the one who’s ready to finally make peace with their vulva and feel at home in their body:

✅ 2x Live group coaching sessions* on Zoom every month for 6-months (12x sessions total)

Access to a library of supportive resources including workbooks and guided tracks designed to reprogram your subconscious mind.

✅ Connection to a supportive community of folks going through the same healing journey

BONUS: Blood Magik online course for free - read about it below.

*The first session each month is a group sharing and Q&A format - everyone will be encouraged to share their experiences and progress with the group and I offer advice and guidance.

Group discussions will be encouraged to help everyone feel connected and validated in their experience and create a sense of community.

In the second session each month, I will guide you through healing practices and exercises that will help you re-wire your brain, soothe your inner child, reparent yourself, regulate your nervous system and improve your relationship with yourself.

🦋 Acceptance Seeker Extended Access

Self-love. Healing. Compassion — with extra time to integrate.

Duration: 10-months

Investment: $199 AUD / ~$132 USD / ~£116 GBP / ~€124 EUR per month for (10-month plan)

Currency conversions are approximate and may vary with exchange rates.

Here’s what you get doll:

✅ Everything in the Acceptance Seeker (see above)

+

✅ 4x Bonus months of access to Outie Sanctuary content = more time to integrate teachings.

🌹 Labia-Lover (Premium Tier)

Embodiment. Liberation. Labia confidence.

Duration: 6-months

Investment: $389 AUD / ~$260 USD / ~£224 GBP / ~€243 EUR per month (6-month plan)

Currency conversions are approximate and may vary with exchange rates.

❤️ For the one who wants deeper, more personalised support, and a lil extra accountability to stay consistent:

✅ Everything in the Acceptance Seeker (see above)

+

✅ 6 months of private 1:1 coaching with me — one juicy 60min session every month i.e. extra integration support

🌹 Labia-Lover Extended Access

Mind-blowing pleasure. Unshakable sexual confidence. Self-assuredness.

Duration: 10-months

Investment: $339 AUD / ~$225 USD / ~£194 GBP / ~€212 EUR per month

Currency conversions are approximate and may vary with exchange rates.

💖 For the one who wants to fall deeply in love with their vulva, fully integrate the teachings, and embody unstoppable vulva confidence — plus enjoy a pleasure-filled, orgasmic sex life without holding back:

✅ Everything in the Acceptance Seeker Extended Access (see above)

+

✅ 10 months of private 1:1 coaching with me — one juicy 60min session every month

❤️‍🔥 Pussy Power (Platinum)

Deep transformation. Private mentorship. Full inner-self glow-up. Complete self-mastery.

Duration: 6-months

Investment: $759 AUD / ~$505 USD / ~£435 GBP / ~€470 EUR per month (6-month premium plan)

Currency conversions are approximate and may vary with exchange rates.

🔥 This is the ultimate VIP treatment doll:

✅ Includes full access to The Outie Sanctuary group coaching program (everything listed under Acceptance Seeker tier).

12x private 90-min sessions — one juicy deep dive every fortnight

✅ 4x personalised subconscious reprogramming or guided meditation tracks made just for you.

From hiding your labia, to owning your power.

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FAQ’S

  • Any adult with vulva insecurity who is ready to deeply commit to overcoming their insecurity and healing.

    ✅ Folks who are insecure about the colour of their vulva/labia

    ✅ Folks who are insecure about the size of either their labia majora (outer lips) or labia minora (inner lips)

    ✅ Folks who are insecure about their clitoris

    ✅ Folks who desire a closer, more loving relationship with their vulva

    All genders are welcome.

  • ✅ Your coach (aka me) is a queer, genderfluid slut! I studied gender diversity and queerness in my Sexology degree so I’m thoroughly educated in this space and provide LGBTQIA+ inclusive and informed care to my clients.

    ✅ I’m neurodivergent (AuDHD) and trauma-informed which adds yet another layer of depth to my work and the care you receive inside the program.

    ✅ I teach from a place of personal lived experience so I can personally relate to your experiences, making you feel seen and validated on a whole other level.

    ✅ It’s sprinkled with light-hearted fun!! We dance, celebrate wins, laugh and be our silly-billy selves! In order to get through the mud, we’ve gotta mix it up with some goofiness!

  • Think of it kinda like group therapy except its waaay less clinical, more holistic-healing focused and it’s via video call.

    We meet up 2x per month on Zoom for a group session facilitated by me.

    You get 12 sessions total. In 6 of the sessions I’ll guide you through healing practices and teach you how to use practical healing tools that address the root causes of your insecurities e.g. low self-worth, self-loathing, body image issues, inner child wounds.

    The other 6 sessions will be more like group conversations and sharing personal experiences with each other. I will still guide the session, but you’ll share any struggles you’re having with the group and I’ll give you individualised strategies and suggestions. There may be group discussions that arise from these shares which is encouraged to make you feel even more validated, supported and connected to community.

    You’ll also be doing homework tasks, and listening to subconscious re-programming tracks between sessions to keep growing and healing.

  • 6-10months (scroll up on this page to see the options).

    The intention behind this time-frame is to give you adequate time to re-wire and reprogram your brains belief systems.

    Sustainable healing requires consistent commitment and dedication.

  • The program runs in cohorts, so no you cannot join anytime — but do not fear doll!! There is a waitlist.

    👉🏼 To get access to early enrolment and exclusive discounts join the waitlist.

    The next cohort’s enrolment open date is TBA. You can book a discovery call any time though, even when enrolment is closed.

  • Unfortunately, the program is for adults only 😎

    But don’t worry! You can still start connecting with your body now by trying my Vulva Connection Meditation.

    When you grab access, you’ll automatically be added to my email list, so you’ll get all the updates about the program.

    That way, once you’re an adult, you’ll already be in the loop and ready to join 💗

  • No worries doll! They’ll all be recorded and added to the library for you to watch anytime 😎

    I do encourage you to come to the lives to get the most out of the program and to connect with the other participants in your cohort.

  • Absolutely! I'm genderfluid myself. If you are transphobic or a TERF (meaning you do not accept trans/gender diverse people or believe only cis women have vulvas) please do not join this program.

    If you are confused or uneducated on this topic, please do not hesitate to reach out to me, I am more than happy to edcuate you.

  • ✅Turn up to as many live calls as you can + do the homework I get your during the calls (calls are 1-1.5hrs long)

    ✅Complete all of the workbooks and relevant Blood Magik content (aim for 1 hr/wk)

    ✅Listen to each guided reprogramming track every day for at least 1 month to help rewire your brain.

    • Healing vulva shame

    • Cultivating self-confidence

    • Manifestation & menstruation ritual

    • Embracing your inner slut and seductress

    • Healing period shame (goes hand in hand with healing outie and vulva shame). If you can't love your pussy when it's bleeding, how can you ever fully, wholeheartedly love it?

      Scroll down to read more about Blood Magik.

  • Psychotherapists and psychologists treat mental health conditions. As a Labia Acceptance Coach, I help you to overcome your insecurities with a focus on goal-setting and what you want future you to be like. I certainly use a lot of tools that therapists might use, but I’m coming along your healing journey with you to hold you accountable, give you tools and motivate you. I’m much more hands on than a therapist, you’ll be working with me consistently for a 6-month period so you can really make some solid progress. I’ll help you identify the root causes of your insecurities then support you in tackling them.

  • No, although I do encourage it if we’ve never spoken before on Instagram. It’s important that we meet before starting a coach-client relationship to ensure that we are a good match and that we vibe!

    This call gives me the opportunity to show you inside the Outie Sanctuary portal (I’ll share my screen on Zoom) so you can see what you’re signed up for.

    This call is free.

Blood Magik Online Course Curriculum

    • Welcome video: details, how to best approach the course, guided embodiment practice, tarot & oracle card readings.

    • Workbook: Blood hygiene, period sustainability + taboo talk

    • Audio: Dance as a healing modality and dance activity

    • Audio: Self-soothing tools

    • Workbook: witch wounds, cultural influence on period beliefs (includes activity)

    • Connecting with ancestors guided meditation

    • Workbook: How to release & re-frame negative period beliefs and stories (journal prompts and activities)

    • Cord-cutting and EFT tapping guided practices

    • Audio: Opening, activating and healing the throat to heal patriarchal wounds

    • Video: Relaxing guided embodiment and self-soothing practice

    • Workbook: How to harness your bleed (period) to listen to your spiritual wisdom and manifest the life you desire

    • Activity: How to connect with your blood

    • Videos and audio: How to use menstrual blood for manifestation, creativity and self-expression

    • Audio: Guided manifestation meditation

    • Audio: The Moon Cycle - learn how to harness the power of the moon and how it compliments your blood ritual & manifestation practices

    • Video: Guided dance practice

    • Video: Activating, connecting with & expressing your inner slut, seductress and your sexuality as well as healing slut shame

    • Video: Self-seduction, self-pleasure & masturbation while bleeding, healing your relationship with and connecting with your vulva & vagina healing

    • Audio: What it means to be a slut and how to heal slut shame

    • Closing Video: Breathwork and reflective journaling

    Nervous system regulation tools are scattered throughout the modules. In order to have a more pleasurable life and heal, we need to have the skills to regulate and be in a parasympathetic dominant state as much as possible.

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If you have already completed the Outie Sanctuary and would like further access, you can re-join. Please only re-join the cohort that you previously joined eg if you were in the Mercury cohort, make sure you re-join the Mercury cohort.

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