The Outie Sanctuary

The online membership for folks experiencing vulva or labia insecurity who desire building a loving relationship with their vulva.

Facilitated by Gem Campbell — pictured.

I’ve been through this healing journey myself and studied a sexology degree, so you’re in experienced hands.

Enrolment Opens 9th Nov ‘24 AEDT

Please note: Scholarships are available for folks experiencing financial hardship. If you wish to claim a scholarship, please book a discovery call before joining so I can give you a discount code to use at checkout and we can work out what price you will pay. Click here to book

Enrolment will only be open for 1 week so please mark this opening date in your calendar and put a reminder in your phone to join so you don’t miss out!

Join the WAITLIST to secure your spot in the next cohort👇🏼

Disclaimers:

  • This Program is for Adults Only.

  • By joining you are agreeing to the Outie Sanctuary Membership Agreement. Click here to read.

“There’s something wrong with me! Why is there skin hanging from my labia?!”

If you’ve had this thought before, don’t worry, you’re not alone. School Sex Ed failed us by not teaching us about VULVA DIVERSITY, that vulvas and labias can look all sorts of ways and still be healthy!

My Story

I used to only have sex in dim lighting, tuck my flaps in when I was naked around friends and hold my flaps apart in doggy so they didn’t hang down.

These unhealthy coping mechanisms were so distracting from the actual sex, that I was rarely present or actually enjoying myself.

I was so preoccupied by my insecurity that I would experience frequent urges to grab a pair of scissors and chop my labia minora off. 

I was relentlessly bullied by ex boyfriends and close girlfriends for having an outie.

A labiaplasty seemed like the only way this ‘problem’ could be fixed. 

Many years later I learnt about vulva diversity through my Sexology studies, this helped me realise that I didn’t need surgery to love my labia, I just needed to establish new, healthy belief systems about my body (I teach you how to do this in the membership).

Now, my relationship with my vulva is so strong that negative vulva-thoughts no longer affect the quality of my sex life or my self-confidence.

It took me YEARS to overcome vulva insecurity because I did it without help, but you’re going to get a solid start in only a matter of MONTHS.

The Outie Sanctuary will support you to:

✅ Build your self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence 😎

✅ Develop coping skills for moments when an unhelpful vulva thought pops up 🧠

✅ Feel more accepting of your vulva ❤️‍🩹

✅ Have a secure relationship with yourself and your body 💃🏽

✅ Experience less rumination and more helpful thoughts about your vulva 💭

✅ Have more enjoyable sex 🛌

✅ Feel comfortable and sexy naked 🤸🏻

✅ Have strong discernment in relationships e.g. be able to spot red flags with new sexual partners 🧐

✅ No longer give a f*** about appeasing the male gaze to live your life free from pleasing men 🚫

✅ Communicate assertively so you can firmly stand up for yourself 💪🏼

Gem Campbell feeling proud to have overcome labia minora insecurity and to be confident with their vulva and during sex.

About the Sanctuary:

To join the Sept 2024 cohort you MUST join by 24th Sept AEST.

  • It’s a safe sanctuary to gather in community to heal along side other folks going through the same experience.

  • It’s completely virtual so you can join from anywhere in the world, all live calls are on Zoom.

  • 6-month duration

  • You will pay in monthly instalments - AUD $66/month. If you cannot afford this, Scholarship positions are available, please send an email to gem@iamawildgem.com to secure a Scholarship. Scholarship pricing operates on a sliding scale.

  • Check out the FAQ’s at the bottom of this page.

What You Get Inside the Sanctuary:

✅ 2x live group coaching calls each month:

  • One call will be a group sharing and Q&A format - everyone will be encouraged to share their experiences and progress with the group and Gem offers advice and guidance.

  • In the other call Gem will guide you through supportive and healing practices and exercises.

✅ Access to a library of supportive resources including workbooks and guided tracks designed to reprogram your subconscious mind.

✅ BONUS: Blood Magik online course for free - read about it below.

Book Your Complimentary Discovery Call

After you join, please book a Zoom call with me so we can touch base one-on-one and please check your emails and respond to my email with your availability for the group calls.

Learn to Love Your Labia Without a Labiaplasty.

Exciting new addition to this cohort:

You can now get access to the Outie Sanctuary content for an EXTRA 4 months after we finish up the group coaching calls.

This means their are now two options to choose from:

6-months or 10-months

Please note: group coaching calls will cease at the 6-month mark but you will still have access to all of the recordings and library of resources (including the Blood Magik online course). This is a great option for busy people who would like extra time to get through the content in the resource library or who feel there inseciruty is severe and may need access to the reosucrs for longer.

If you’re unsure which option to choose book a complimentary discovery call (please make sure you do this before Saturday the 16th Nov AEDT).

Outie Sanctuary Program
$199.00
For 6 months
$159.40
For 10 months

PLEASE READ the Outie Sanctuary Membership Agreement before joining - it can be found by scrolling down. By joining you are agreeing to the Agreement. Want access to the Sanctuary resources after the 6 months of live calls are up? Choose the 10-month option and get access for another 4 months!

✓ 2x Live group coaching calls with Gem every month
✓ Immediate access to the resource library
✓ Immediate access to Blood Magik course (for free)
✓ Connect with other folks who are on the same healing journey

By joining, you are agreeing to the Outie Sanctuary Membership Agreement.

FAQ’S

    • I use gender inclusive language and include all genders in my vulva healing work, meaning this is an LGBTQIA+ safe space. Many sex educators and coaches are not educated in this space or they’re TERFs (trans exclusionary radical feminists) or just straight up transphobes.

    • I’m neurodivergent and trauma informed which adds yet another layer of depth to my work.

    • I teach from a place of personal lived experience which I believe is very valuable for you!

    • All of my programs are sprinkled with light-hearted fun!! We will dance, party, laugh and be our silly-billy selves! In order to get through the mud, we’ve gotta mix it up with some goofy not-so-seriousness. goes here

  • 6 months, the intention behind this timeframe is to give you adequate time to re-wire and reprogram your brains belief systems.

    Inside the membership you’ll have me to hold you accountable so you stay consistent.

    Sustainable healing requires consistent commitment and dedication.

  • Previously you could join anytime, however, the structure has now changed.

    I'm now running the membership in cohorts to ensure members go through their entire 6 month journey with the same group of people and there won't be any new folks entering randomly.

    I am currently accepting new members for the Sept 2024 cohort. You must join by 24th Sept AEST to secure a place in this cohort.

    I likely won't be opening the doors for another cohort for a few months, so if you really need support ASAP, I recommend emailing me gem@iamawildgem.com to secure your place.

  • Unfortunately not, this membership is for adults only at this stage.

    I recommend joining my email community in the mean time so you can stay in touch until you are old enough to join. To join, scroll to the bottom of this page. I will hopefully be able to support teens in the future, I am working on that behind the scenes. ription

    • Healing vulva shame

    • Cultivating self-confidence

    • Manifestation & menstruation ritual

    • Embracing your inner slut and seductress

    • Healing period shame (goes hand in hand with healing outie and vulva shame). If you can't love your pussy when it's bleeding, how can you ever fully, wholeheartedly love it?

      Scroll down to read more about Blood Magik.

  • They will all be recorded and added to the library for you to watch anytime.

    I always make sure that as many members as possible can attend the lives.

  • ✅Turn up to as many live calls as you can, this will add up to ~3-4hrs/month and homework from the calls which will be ~1hr/month. This adds up to ~1.5hrs/wk MAXIMUM you’ll spend in the Outie Sanctuary calls and doing the homework.

    ✅ Spend at least 1hr/month doing and the activities and reading content from the resource library.

    ✅ Listen to each guided reprogramming and meditation track every day for at least 1 month to rewire your brain.

  • Any adult with vulva insecurity who is ready to deeply commit to overcoming their insecurity and healing.

  • Absolutely! I'm genderfluid myself. If you are transphobic or a TERF (meaning you do not accept trans/gender diverse people or believe only cis women have vulvas) please do not join this membership.

Blood Magik Online Course

What You Get:

Module 1: Intro

  • Welcome video: details, how to best approach the course, guided embodiment practice, tarot & oracle card readings.

  • Workbook: Blood hygiene, period sustainability + taboo talk

  • Audio: Dance as a healing modality

  • Audio: Self-soothing tools

  • Video: Introduction to ecstatic dance

Module 2: Period Culture

  • Workbook: witch wounds, cultural influence on period beliefs (includes activity)

  • Connecting with ancestors guided meditation

Module 3: Face the Shame

  • Workbook: How to release & re-frame negative period beliefs and stories (journal prompts and activities)

  • Cord-cutting and EFT tapping guided practices

  • Audio: Opening, activating and healing the throat to heal patriarchal wounds

  • Video: Relaxing guided embodiment and self-soothing practice

Module 4: Blood Ritual & Manifestation

  • Workbook: How to harness your bleed (period) to listen to your spiritual wisdom and manifest the life you desire

  • Activity: How to connect with your blood

  • Videos and audio: How to use menstrual blood for manifestation, creativity and self-expression

  • Audio: Guided manifestation meditation

  • Audio: The Moon Cycle - learn how to harness the power of the moon and how it compliments your blood ritual & manifestation practices

  • Video: Guided dance practice

Module 5: Blood Slut

  • Video: Activating, connecting with & expressing your inner slut, seductress and your sexuality as well as healing slut shame

  • Video: Self-seduction, self-pleasure & masturbation while bleeding, healing your relationship with and connecting with your vulva & vagina healing

  • Audio: What it means to be a slut and how to heal slut shame

  • Closing Video: Breathwork and reflective journaling

Nervous system regulation tools are scattered throughout the modules. In order to have a more pleasurable life and heal, we need to have the skills to regulate and be in a parasympathetic dominant state as much as possible.